Have a New Kid By Friday

I know a couple of weeks ago I said that I was reading this book called Excellent Wife and I would post about each chapter. Well, I got stuck on chapter 2 and got kinda lost in it. My friend Tammy said that I just to move on to chapter 3 cause it starts getting good.. Well, before I do that I picked up that book called How To Have New Kid By Friday, cause with 2 teenage boys and a 6 yrs old that is sweet most of the time but can develop an attitude I wanted to see if I could REALLY have a new kid by Friday...

I am only on Wednesday and I have really learn alot in this book. First his method is you tell your child 1 time to do something and if the don't do it you don't say anything else then when they come and want something a snack, go somewhere, you to buy them something whatever it may be you simply so NO, I ask you to pick up your socks and they are still there. Then you turn your back and walk away. Ok, the kid goes and pick up the sock and they want whatever it is you still say NO... Oh my my first mistake I would have said ok lets go. He basically says if you do this consistent enough (still learning that one too) then it will get to the point to where you say clean your room and they will do it after being told one time..

Another thing is the ABC which is Attitude, Behavior and Character. Guess what I learn here... IT ALL HAS TO DO WITH ME!!!!! My kids are not going to change unless I change my attitude, if I am fussing at them or telling them to do something over and over and they see the frustration they are NOT going to say, wow I really upset mom let me go and do this for her, instead they are going to do it unhappy and it will be another struggle next time. I am all the the time telling my kids that I want them to be somebody and I don't want them to have the hardships I had and I want people to respect them and say good things to them but that is just words cause they have tune me out already.I have to teach them now for who they will be when they are adults. If I do everything for them including that homework project (which I have to say I have never done, I am done w/ school it is there time now), if I let them rule the house and tell me what to do, if I am constantly yelling at them and not letting them make decisions then I am not doing them in favors. The book said you have to find a common ground between those 2 different parenting skills. Who we teach our kids to be today is who they will be when they are 30 years old... We are to let them learn from life reality. If they don't do that term paper then they let them face the teacher with it. I have t say Tuesday step ALL over my toes, cause I learn that I need to change my attitude for them to. I need to be more consistent with them, say it in a loving way instead of aaaahhhhh I am going crazy here way. I need to talk to them even about the smallest thing like their music (that is a hard one on Ryan cause I can't understand his) but basically if I talk about the small amount of things with them they will know I am there for the big things too.. I have been trying to put these things he said in our life and I see a little change but it won't happen overnight. Oh yeah, and with telling your kid something once is all cause if you say it over and over and over (yes, guilty) then you are implying that they are dumb and don't understand.

I can read any book out there but the main thing I know that I have to do everyday is to pray for my kids and release them to God cause they are really His. I pray for them to be surrounded w/ good Christine friends, to be respectful and obedient to not just us but to anybody in leadership of them and their classmates and friends, to want to share who Jesus is with other if not speaking but just the way they carry themselves that day, I pray that people will see Jesus in them and want to know Him better or at all. To give them the eyes, ears and heart of Jesus all through the day so they will see others around them and their needs, to speak kindly to everyone and for them to be protected and to protect the people that Ryan will be driving around today.Yes, I also pray for their future wife too and for their purity and staying strong in that commitment. If it means that God has to make them hit rock bottom before they feel any convictions that He will do it and give me the strength, guidance and comfort to continue to pray for them and love them along the way. I use to pray something like this every day and in the busy of life I just said a prayer to keep them safe and watch over them and I can tell it now, the difference have felt this week I believe is cause I have been on my knees praying specific things for each one of them cause there is a different prayer cause they are all different and have different things they need praying for.. Even though God knows our prayers before we ask or say them He still wants us to speak them. So, when there is a moment I want to pop their little heads off I just simply say Jesus, this is your child give me yours attitude and your words... I am not going to say we will be perfect cause you never know when God is breaking one down to bring him back up but I know through my faith and prayers we will be ok and they will become Godly husband, friend, men, fathers, sons, co-worker, coaches or wherever life may lead them. God put them in my hands for a reason and He will direct they way...

I will get back to Excellent Wife as soon as I am done with this book...